Bash them with the Law (rules)?  Threaten with pain or grounding?  Cajole?  Nope.  Won’t work. 

How about trying it Paul’s way?

He wrote in Titus 2:11, 12…

For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people, training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives in the present age. (ESV)

How about that?  The grace of God…trains us.  To be sure, we need to be certain that the rules are clear, and we need to discipline when the rules are disobeyed or flaunted.  But a home with the atmosphere of grace is surely the greatest draw to obedience. 

In the same way, focusing on God’s mercy and grace (displayed at the cross) in our lives moves us personally to obedience.  So Paul wrote, “The love of Christ compels me…”