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What God Told Husbands to Do…

In an email to our church this past Saturday, I explained that I would soon be writing about the recent Supreme Court decision to legalize Gay Marriage. And the truth is that I’ve written a lot (probably worked about 6 or 7 hours on my thoughts since the decision)…I just haven’t posted. So…extensive writing may not be forthcoming (I have a few comments below), and we will surely be addressing it from the pulpit at Edgewood. But now, three days after the Supreme Court decision has caused a lot of bits and bytes to fly, I wonder if anyone really wants to read a whole lot more pontificating on the subject. Much has already been written; much has already been said. However, as I mentioned, I do provide three links which I found helpful at the end of this article, along with some brief comments.

But for now…

Ironically, today’s passage in the Inspired series is one of the great marriage passages in Scripture. It contains a word that has encouraged me through the years, and I hope it will encourage you.

Paul writes…”In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church,” Ephesians 5:28-29 (ESV)

I have a long way to go at this, but I love the descriptive way that Paul tells husbands to care for their wives: They are to nourish and cherish them.  What a challenge. My role is to nourish and cherish my sweet wife Diane, who is the greatest gift my Father has ever given me. And what is my motivation or drive to do this for her? Why, Christ of course! It is what He does for His bride. Should I, therefore, do any less for mine?

Finally, there are a lot of good articles out there on the recent Supreme Court decision. Here are just three that I found helpful.

The Bible and Same Sex Relationships: This is good. Written before the decision, this link will be helpful if you know Christians who are supporters of same-sex marriage, and who are arguing that gay marriage is another disputed issue like baptism or election and predestination. The reasoning goes that since Christians also have different views on homosexuality, we should just agree to disagree. But there is a significant difference: Godly men and women have been debating issues like baptism and election for 2,000 years, and I suppose we will debate them until Jesus returns. But the “debate” on homosexuality has no such history. All Christians have unanimously agreed on this subject until very recently (the last 20 years?). Indeed, the Bible has always been clear on the topic. Only the changing culture has caused people to “see” Scripture in a new way.

5 Ways to Respond to the Supreme Court’s Decision on Same-Sex Marriage This article gets to the idea of tone. It’s so important to have the right tone in our dialogue with people. It’s hard enough to be heard on this issue when you are speaking in kind and loving tones. But the wrong tone will definitely cause you to be ignored or vilified for no reason.

Here We Stand: An Evangelical Declaration on Marriage When all is said and done, we need to take a stand, and we need to help younger believers think through this issue, because the wave of culture is a tsunami. One hundred leaders came together and agreed on this wording that I think is strong and good.

For tomorrow, Tuesday, June 30: Ephesians 6

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Posted by on June 29, 2015 in Uncategorized


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Fresh Perspectives on Election Day…Part 3 and Final

See that little blue spot in the far southeast corner of the map - that was my post on Election Day

See that little blue spot in the far southeast corner of the map?…that was my post on Election Day.

This is part 3 of my account on Exit Polling in the inner city of Milwaukee.  Part 1 is here.  Part 2 is here.

All in all, it was a day of fresh perspectives, and that’s what made it all so enlightening. A month ago, I would have never imagined being in that polling place on that Election Day, but being there gave me eyes to see what I don’t normally see – poverty in America, and the palpable hope that an election might somehow alleviate it. “Gotta get him outta there,” was the basic refrain I heard more than one time during the day, no doubt referring to Mr. Walker.

I saw poverty in different places that day, on my surveys, for instance, and certainly in the extremely overweight young gal who sat across from me all day serving as a greeter, helping voters discern which precinct they were in. During a lull, a caring teacher from the school took time to speak with this gal to assess and try to help her daughter who attended there. What I remember overhearing…was sad.

But fresh perspective came to me again when Larry walked into the school. Last time in Madison I was alone the whole day, and I certainly didn’t expect any company this year, but long about 10 a.m. a friendly 60ish-year-old man showed up with the same Edison Research lanyard I was wearing. He was a supervisor making rounds named Larry Thomas, and we hit it off right away, especially when he pitched in to help from the get-go. When we had a chance to catch our breath and chat, we had great rapport, and he came to visit me again later in the day.

And it was that afternoon when Larry, a black man, said something I appreciated. It was about our President, whom Larry referred to simply as “Barack.” Now I, of course, like everyone else, have a perspective on Mr. Obama. For instance, I believe he hurt our country deeply when he announced his support of gay marriage. And his pro-choice stance is completely incomprehensible to me, at least for one who proclaims himself a Christian. But I do pray God’s blessings on him every day, or most every day, I’m guessing more than many of his supporters do.

But that day brought fresh perspective again when Larry began to wax eloquent about how he has seen older black men walk into the voting booth differently these days…with their heads held high, because after years, decades, yea, centuries of oppression, a fellow black man holds the highest office in the land. And though overall I was disappointed when the election of 2008 concluded, I gladly remember that I too felt a surge of pride in our country when Mr. Obama was elected. And in that moment, talking to Larry on Election Day in the inner city of Milwaukee, I was reminded of that pride. Admittedly, I couldn’t help but wish that it was a black man with vastly different policies, but I had renewed appreciation for all that my new friend was saying.

It came time for him to move on; we had a warm goodbye, exchanging cell numbers and email addresses, and I invited him to Edgewood, which he seemed quite open to. Larry’s a Milwaukee resident – join me in praying that he might make the drive some weekend.

My day concluded around 8:30 that evening when leaving Westside Academy One, I called in the final vote totals to Edison Research. The two precincts showed incredible unity with Mary Burke taking over 95% of the vote. She had clearly won the battle of Milwaukee, but before too long, she would lose the war for Wisconsin.

As for me, I had a fine chance to participate in democracy, and to remember afresh that though our country seems to be heading down so many wrong directions today, not all is bad. Racism may not be dead, but it’s been dealt a serious blow.

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